Gasoline and vasoline

[twicketface]

Eric triumphed in tennis again, beating me 6-4. When my serve is right on, he can't return it. Sadly, this only happened about 5 times last night. Feels good to get out and run around - hope we can make it a weekly occurance.

I'm buying gas today, because I'm a terrorist.

Also, how come no one told me about Quorn before? That faux chicken patty I had last night was the best I've ever had!

Lately I've been thinking about how people start dating. Marie and I met and became friends while she was engaged. Had she been single, I wonder if we would've ended up together - something about her being taken made it easier to just be myself. To those of you who are currently in a relationship, were you single when you met the person or involved with someone else? How do you think it affected your new relationship?

Comments

[pooplord.livejournal.com]

It's been a month now since my nearly five-year relationship ended, but I still wanted to post here. I met Garth while I was seeing someone else (who was actually an acquaintance of said guy). I didn't want to admit it to myself, but I didn't like my beau at the time and had cheated on him and other awful things like that, and after randomly meeting up with or hanging out with him several times over the course of a year or so, we suddenly started spending a lot more time together in June 1999. I knew at this point that I was more attracted to him and seemingly more compatible, and that I had to break it off with the old guy. So Garth and I dated two hours away from each other while he had another year in school and I had another 1.5 years, and it worked out pretty well (i.e. I didn't cheat like I did on the last guy when I was in the same situation). We moved in together immediately after I graduated college, which in retrospect seems like a mistake now, and is one of the main reasons why I recently felt compelled to move out.

To bring this back to your point, I think I shouldn't have jumped from one relationship right into another, but I just didn't/don't have any idea how to date more than one person at the same time. So now I find myself almost 24 and single for the first time in seven or eight years, having given up something that was pretty damn good overall just for a chance at the unknown.

I have no idea what it would've been like if I were single at the time I met him. Maybe I wouldn't have had doubts and itches about never having been single in my adult life, and we would still be together. Maybe we never even would have gotten together because I wouldn't have been looking for someone new to cling to. Or would I?

[htothem.livejournal.com]

I think that living on my own, and being single after college was one of the greatest things that ever happened to me. I learned a self-reliance and independence that's invaluable. I had no idea how much I was capable of until I got rid of all of the crutches I'd built up. It was scary and sometimes very unpleasant to go through, but I'm much stronger person because of it.

[pooplord.livejournal.com]

I still wanna talk to you more about that old relationship of yours. Hit me up via e-mail, will ya?

[htothem.livejournal.com]

I don’t think I have your e-mail address. Shoot me one…hmgraves@hotmail.com Also, for the record, my ex’s name was Dan. You can imagine all of the hilarious confusion that’s caused.

[twicketface.livejournal.com]

It's interesting, how different we are when we're single and when we're committed. I just hate the stigma that says if you're single, you should feel worthless. I think that's why there are so many people in bad relationships instead of just being by themselves.