Turn me around and make everything right
Feb. 13th, 2004 12:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
twicketfaceI spent a chunk of Wednesday night on the phone with Jeremy. He and Kristie are hosting a sledding party that sounds too good to be true. At the bottom of the sledding hill, there is an apparatus that you attach your tube to that pulls you back up to the top. Taking the worst part out of sledding (the work) is the greatest idea ever. Only in America. Anyway, we talked for over an hour and it was quite nice. I need to remember that he's usually home on Wednesday nights.
I spent most of last night running errands and cooking. Eric and Lori are coming over tonight for dinner and to watch Lost in Translation. I made stuffed manicotti and an apple pumpkin dessert (crockpots rule). Stuffing manicotti is harder than I thought it would be. I need a pastry bag or something if I'm going to attempt that again.
I also ran some super secret errands for Valentine's Day. Marie is difficult to surprise and holidays/celebrations would be a lot more enjoyable if she was just a bit more gullible. Anyway, I think I'm going to be able to pull it off and it should be great.
Warning - potential million dollar idea ahead. Proceed with caution. Slippery when wet:
With all the secrecy that comes with being a politician and the hiding of important documentation, would it not be a good idea to form a group that would obtain copies of politicians background (military service, voting records, donations received and so forth) while it's still public record before they run for a higher level of office (like President)? Also, is that last sentence not the longest one you've read in a long time? My thought is that if you are denying access to records, you've got something to hide. I need to learn more about the Freedom of Information Act.
Six months after moving into my new office, I finally got around to putting up some pictures. Five Ansel Adams prints and the calendar that Marie made and gave to me for Christmas. I've received two compliments already.
In lieu of Valentine's Day, I'm curious about people who have cheated on someone or been cheated on. If you don't mind sharing, I'd like to hear your story. When did it happen? What were your (or their) motives? Did it lead to you breaking up? Did they find out? Post anonymously if you want to - I'm just curious.
# Wallet – Large bi-fold (tri-fold wallets should be illegal) that I got from Target. My previous wallet had more secret compartments, but this will do.
# Jewelry worn daily – Just my wedding ring. Sometimes a necklace I got on our honeymoon.
# Pillow cover – Currently, a beige flannel cover. Crusted with drool, for sure.
# Blanket – A black and beige quilt. Likely some drool on here as well.
# Coffee cup/mug – My friend Julie gave us a beer glass from a bar in Oshkosh with some flowers in it. I now use it as a drinking glass for water. It's heavy and I like it.
# Sunglasses – I think this year I'm getting prescription sunglasses. I have a few regular pairs, but don't ever remember to wear them.
# Shoes – Winter - Black Vans or boots. For work, it's either brown or black dress shoes
# Favorite shirt – Short-sleeve is the Dismemberment Plan shirt that I bought from![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
mollymolly. Long sleeve is a tan shirt that is very comfortable but is always rife with wrinkles.
# Cologne/Perfume – Marie got me some body spray that I like. Terry told me that he uses the same kind.
# What are you listening to – Matt Skiba - Next to You
# Tattoos – None and probably never.
# Piercings – None and never.
# What you are wearing now – Khaki pants and a blue checkered (houndstooth?) shirt that Marie bought for me.
# Hair – Freshly cut and crusted with gel. I'm wearing it 'down' today.
# WHO or WHAT (was/is/are)in my head – I have to pee and it's almost time for lunch. I got paid today too, so that's good.
# Wishing – That this afternoon goes by quickly.
# After this – Peeing and lunch. Working on this large and complex spreadsheet involving things I partially understand.
# Eating – I had an 'everything' bagel and chai tea for breakfast this morning. Money well spent.
# If you could get away with it and murder anyone, who and for what reason – No one. Any 'bad' person I would choose would be replaced by another 'bad' person. Hate the game, not the player.
# Person you wish you could see right now – Marie
# Is next to you – Water bottle, stack of CDs, resume, phone cord, keycard to access parking ramp.
# Some of your favorite movies – Wet Hot American Summer, Memento, The Game, The Usual Suspects, Sneakers
# Something you're looking forward to in the upcoming month – I guess that would be March, right? Warmer weather would be good.
# The last thing you ate – I think I covered this already.
# Something that you are deathly afraid of – As irrational as it sounds, losing my friends or Marie.
# Do you like candles – I do, but need to switch to beeswax.
# Do you like hot wax – As long as it's not on my person, I'm indifferent.
# Do you like incense – I haven't smelled enough to tell.
# Do you believe in love – Of course not.
# Do you believe in love at first sight – No.
# What do you want done with your body when you die – Cremation
# What is the latest you've ever stayed up – At Jeremy's bachelor party I didn't fall asleep until around 5am, despite going to bed around 1am.
# Can you eat with chopsticks – Probably not very well.
I spent most of last night running errands and cooking. Eric and Lori are coming over tonight for dinner and to watch Lost in Translation. I made stuffed manicotti and an apple pumpkin dessert (crockpots rule). Stuffing manicotti is harder than I thought it would be. I need a pastry bag or something if I'm going to attempt that again.
I also ran some super secret errands for Valentine's Day. Marie is difficult to surprise and holidays/celebrations would be a lot more enjoyable if she was just a bit more gullible. Anyway, I think I'm going to be able to pull it off and it should be great.
Warning - potential million dollar idea ahead. Proceed with caution. Slippery when wet:
With all the secrecy that comes with being a politician and the hiding of important documentation, would it not be a good idea to form a group that would obtain copies of politicians background (military service, voting records, donations received and so forth) while it's still public record before they run for a higher level of office (like President)? Also, is that last sentence not the longest one you've read in a long time? My thought is that if you are denying access to records, you've got something to hide. I need to learn more about the Freedom of Information Act.
Six months after moving into my new office, I finally got around to putting up some pictures. Five Ansel Adams prints and the calendar that Marie made and gave to me for Christmas. I've received two compliments already.
In lieu of Valentine's Day, I'm curious about people who have cheated on someone or been cheated on. If you don't mind sharing, I'd like to hear your story. When did it happen? What were your (or their) motives? Did it lead to you breaking up? Did they find out? Post anonymously if you want to - I'm just curious.
# Wallet – Large bi-fold (tri-fold wallets should be illegal) that I got from Target. My previous wallet had more secret compartments, but this will do.
# Jewelry worn daily – Just my wedding ring. Sometimes a necklace I got on our honeymoon.
# Pillow cover – Currently, a beige flannel cover. Crusted with drool, for sure.
# Blanket – A black and beige quilt. Likely some drool on here as well.
# Coffee cup/mug – My friend Julie gave us a beer glass from a bar in Oshkosh with some flowers in it. I now use it as a drinking glass for water. It's heavy and I like it.
# Sunglasses – I think this year I'm getting prescription sunglasses. I have a few regular pairs, but don't ever remember to wear them.
# Shoes – Winter - Black Vans or boots. For work, it's either brown or black dress shoes
# Favorite shirt – Short-sleeve is the Dismemberment Plan shirt that I bought from
mollymolly. Long sleeve is a tan shirt that is very comfortable but is always rife with wrinkles.# Cologne/Perfume – Marie got me some body spray that I like. Terry told me that he uses the same kind.
# What are you listening to – Matt Skiba - Next to You
# Tattoos – None and probably never.
# Piercings – None and never.
# What you are wearing now – Khaki pants and a blue checkered (houndstooth?) shirt that Marie bought for me.
# Hair – Freshly cut and crusted with gel. I'm wearing it 'down' today.
# WHO or WHAT (was/is/are)in my head – I have to pee and it's almost time for lunch. I got paid today too, so that's good.
# Wishing – That this afternoon goes by quickly.
# After this – Peeing and lunch. Working on this large and complex spreadsheet involving things I partially understand.
# Eating – I had an 'everything' bagel and chai tea for breakfast this morning. Money well spent.
# If you could get away with it and murder anyone, who and for what reason – No one. Any 'bad' person I would choose would be replaced by another 'bad' person. Hate the game, not the player.
# Person you wish you could see right now – Marie
# Is next to you – Water bottle, stack of CDs, resume, phone cord, keycard to access parking ramp.
# Some of your favorite movies – Wet Hot American Summer, Memento, The Game, The Usual Suspects, Sneakers
# Something you're looking forward to in the upcoming month – I guess that would be March, right? Warmer weather would be good.
# The last thing you ate – I think I covered this already.
# Something that you are deathly afraid of – As irrational as it sounds, losing my friends or Marie.
# Do you like candles – I do, but need to switch to beeswax.
# Do you like hot wax – As long as it's not on my person, I'm indifferent.
# Do you like incense – I haven't smelled enough to tell.
# Do you believe in love – Of course not.
# Do you believe in love at first sight – No.
# What do you want done with your body when you die – Cremation
# What is the latest you've ever stayed up – At Jeremy's bachelor party I didn't fall asleep until around 5am, despite going to bed around 1am.
# Can you eat with chopsticks – Probably not very well.
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Date: 2004-02-13 10:57 am (UTC)I, however, have been cheated on. A high school boyfriend cheated on me with fellow cashier of mine. He banged her at Schiltterban Water Park. It was quite the scandal at Jeds Ace Home Center. We broke up immediately upon my discovery of the teenage infidelity.
My last boyfriend cheated on me with a boy. I just sort of had to laugh at that one. What can you do?
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Date: 2004-02-13 11:28 am (UTC)Was it easier to deal with since it was with a guy or more difficult?
Thanks for commenting.
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Date: 2004-02-13 11:51 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-13 12:01 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-13 11:29 am (UTC)I hate it when people say first then don't have a second. But I don't have a second I am going to answer about the cheating.My first real boyfriend ever in college cheated on me after 3 years. I have no idea why he did it. And we are great friends now, and he still doesn't know. It ended in me taking him back twice him doing it again and finally us breaking up. It has taken alot to get me to trust any one again. And I still have thoughts of is this person going to run off and do what he did. And actually I brought it up the other day that he sitll hasn't apologized, it's been 3 years. Have I ever cheated? I was kissed by someone while in a relationship. Supposedly I was cheating but I was kissed and didn't kiss back. But I was mental cheating. I was spending more time talking to a random guy than my then boyfriend. So I guess the kissing shouldn't have come as such a surpise.
I am worried about why you want to know this.
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Date: 2004-02-13 11:40 am (UTC)Was it difficult to take him back? Did you stop seeing each other for a while or did you forgive him right away?
No worries - I could never, ever cheat on Marie and she'd never cheat on me. I'm just curious about others' experiences since I rarely dated.
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Date: 2004-02-13 11:54 am (UTC)It wasn't hard the first time. It was much harder the second time. Now that we are friends and he has grown up, I would try again. But we both know I would never trust him, it just wouldn't work.
We stopped seeing each other after the first time for about a month. We wound up getting back together because I got really sick and he was there to take care of me. I forgave him. The second time, It was about 3 months, I figured, what the hell. We can try, 2 months later I found out it was still going on.
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Date: 2004-02-13 12:01 pm (UTC)I'm sorry for what you had to go through.
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Date: 2004-02-13 12:03 pm (UTC)And it's not your fault don't be sorry. I lived thru it. I'll be fine
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Date: 2004-02-13 12:45 pm (UTC)I don't think cheating destroys relationships, though; I think it's more a symptom of broken ones. Which is how some people can work through it: they decide whether or not they can fix the underlying fundamental problem, and, if they can, the risk of repeat cheating is much diminished if not eliminated.
And, not to be confrontational but merely curious (albeit possibly inappropriately), but didn't you mention in one of your interviews that Marie was seriously involved with someone else when you met and, well, decided you wanted to get involved? how does that color your thinking on this?
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Date: 2004-02-13 01:13 pm (UTC)Marie was engaged when we met (in college). James was a few states away. As strange as it sounds, I *never* thought I'd end up with Marie. She was spoken for and I respected that. I made the decision to be friends with her, not knowing how close we would become. There was one night (the day before she broke up with him) that we were in my room. She was sitting on my bed and I was sitting next to her. She had a terrible conversation with James and looked like she was having the day from hell. I reached over and held her hand and told her that I wished I could make things better for her. I went to pull my hand away, but she tightened her grip. I fought everything in me to not kiss her. I knew it wouldn't be right.
My roommate came in a little bit later wanted to go to bed, so she left. The next day, she broke up with him and we started dating. Truth be told, they were going out 'in name only' since things were so bad between them, but I still resisted overstepping my bounds. I'm sure the whole dorm thought we were getting it on for months, since we spent so much time together.
Do I consider what I did cheating? No. My actions were because I cared about her, not in an attempt to woe her. I have a lot of respect for relationships and wouldn't ever get involved with someone who was involved with someone else. Now, if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't be happy with my fiance spending so much time with another guy, but I'd also like to think that I would've broken it off if the relationship was having the problems they were.
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Date: 2004-02-14 06:23 am (UTC)To be clear, I wasn't implying that I thought you (or Marie) was guilty of cheating; I was just wondering whether and how having been in the situation you were informed your opinion of how a person involved in a relationship but attracted to someone else ought to behave.
I still think there's a fine distinction between cheating with someone specific that you like "better" and cheating almost for the sake of it as a reaction to some relationship flaw. Not that I'm by any means advocating or even excusing infidelity, but I think those kinds of differences are what allow some people to work through it and repair relationships.
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Date: 2004-02-13 05:36 pm (UTC)I cheated, once. I know it wasn't the right thing to do. Things were really bumpy that last week. He wasn't returning my calls. I never ran into him at school. One night, I made out with a good guy friend. I'd already made up my mind - really made up my mind - earlier in the day to break up with him as soon as I talked to him. I would have broken up with him first, if he'd just returned my freakin' calls. As he didn't, I feel I cheated only as a technicality.
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Date: 2004-02-16 09:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-19 03:39 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-19 06:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-14 01:43 am (UTC)Meanwhile, crockpots do rule. I got one from my mom last Christmas and love it.
Also: Ziploc+cutoff corner=pastery bag. Use this well young Jedi.
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Date: 2004-02-14 09:02 am (UTC)No cheating story for moi, but I do have a question.
Did you ever get a chance to look into the band Karate? http://home.hetnet.nl/~unsolved/home/home.htm
Wish you the best with your Valentines day.
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Date: 2004-02-15 04:29 pm (UTC)Hope your V-day was great.
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Date: 2004-02-15 10:20 pm (UTC)http://www.geofffarina.com
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Date: 2004-02-16 07:23 pm (UTC)