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First and Middle Name: Brian Ronald
Age: 24
Presently living in: Oshkosh, Wisconsin
Parents: Mom and Dad
Siblings (names and ages): Bradford, soon to be 27
What is your ethnic background?: German and some other stuff.
Name of high school: Appleton High School West, graduated in 1996

Where do you work? Describe your job history: I work in an office setting as a Human Resources Assistant. This consists of me doing the hiring and recruiting, job interviews, employee newsletters, and a slew of other duties as assigned. Still, I somehow manage to cram in at least 3 hours of quality internet time each day. I'm actively seeking a new job.

What is your ultimate career goal?: My career goal is to find something I'm good at and can sustain myself with while simultaneously spending as little time "working" as possible. Ultimate goal would be for me to be a succesful writer working out of the comforts of my home.

What kind of pressure do you feel about your future?: I feel pressured about kids. Mostly, from myself. How many do we want and is this a world we want to bring another life into are the questions that keep me up at night. Am I fatherly material and how much will it change our lives by having kids?

What artistic talents do you have? How skilled are you?: I'm not very artistic but have become better at taking pictures as of late. I attribute it to having a nicer camera, but I'll take what I can get.

What about you will make an interesting roommate?: I don't think I'm a particularly good roommate in that during the two years of college that I had a roommate, I spent the majority of my time in the room. I can imagine that got on Jeremy's nerves at times. I'm a mostly private person when I'm in person, so I like to have my space and my own agenda.

How would someone who really knows you describe your best traits?: Loyal, funny, caring and honest/moral.

How would someone who really knows you describe your worst traits?: I can be very selfish, pacify others instead confronting an issue and I can be uncomfortably shy at times.

Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend? No, but I have a wonderful wife. Much better.

What qualities do you seek in a mate?: Someone who challenges me and someone who I can be myself around

How important is sex to you? Do you have it only when you're in a relationship or do you seek it out at other times?: I think sex is important, but intimacy is vastly superior. You can have sex with pretty much anyone but intimacy is something that is earned. Still, I'm almost always in the mood for it. And I've only had "it" while in a committed (re: current) relationship.

Describe your fantasy date: I don't fantasize about dates all that much. Something interesting that involves lots of communication, getting dressed up and good food.

What do you do for fun?: lately, scan in pictures. Usually, read, listen to music, spend time with friends and spend lots of (re: too much) time on the computer.

What are your favorite musical groups/artists?: Lately, The Dismemberment Plan and NOFX, usually face to face, Green Day, Pearl Jam and the Foo Fighters

Describe a typical Friday or Saturday night: Most of my time is spent at home with Marie. We're more prone to spend time together or get caught up on things we didn't do during the week. The quiet life works pretty well for me.

Other than your boyfriend or girlfriend, who is the most important person in your life right now?: Other than Marie, I'd say that my friends are most important to me. I've found it difficult to cope with the ways friendships change after high school/college but I'm managing. It means so much when people not only make time for you; but also seek you out and I've found that lacking from people I used to be very close to.

What are some ways you have treated someone who has been important to you that you are proud of?: I'm proud of the way that I've put other people ahead of myself. It's not always been this way for me; I tend to be selfish with my time and also with my friends. I think it comes from understanding that people are often in a different mindset than I am and I need to see things through their eyes.

What are some ways you have treated someone who has been important to you that you are embarrassed by or wish you hadn't done?: I tend to be two-faced when it comes to my dealings with Eric. I just don't see the point in "coming clean" or explaining the situation when I don't think things will change for the better. The non-confrontationalist in my is hoping that it will just quietly go away after Jeremy's wedding.

Describe your mother: I've always been closer to my mom and she's been a large influence in my life. Within the past year or so, I've been able to be much more honest with her on my views and ideals and I think we've both changed for the better as a result. She's a wonderful woman who spends too much time worrying about everyone else and not enough time devoted to making herself happy.

Describe your father: My dad is my hero in every sense of the word. Someone who can come from his background and upbringing and turn out the way he has gives me hope for a lot of things. While he's not perfect, he's someone I try to emulate in everyday life.

If you have any brothers or sisters, are you close?: My brother and I have never been close in that we are such different people. I think there is a lot of resentment on his part because I've succeeded where he has not. And I've found myself feeling like I need to apologize for the things I've accomplished to please him. Things have gotten better and I think it's going to be a lifelong struggle to reach common ground. I love him and want the best for him but I think he's made some bad choices that have held him back.

What is the most important issue or problem facing you today?: For the past 4 or 5 months, it's been my career/job situation. Other than that, I'd think that the impending question of "Who am I?" has been prevelant in everday thought and wonder.

Do you believe in God? Are you religious or spiritual?: I have a strong belief in a higher power and that our actions on earth determine what happens after we die. Call it what you will.

What are your thoughts on people who had different sexual orientation from you?: I wish I was friends with more people of differing orientation. I think the more diverse people you know, the better off you are. I think people should be free to love whichever gender they want to.

Do you have any habits we should know about?: I still crack my knuckles, I find it impossible to sit still while having a phone conversation and prefer to wander around the apartment, I drink lots of water and always have to sit with one leg crossed.

What bothers you most about other people?: Inconsideration and egos. The fact that we've got the potential to be wonderful, truly happy people and that so much of that is lost in favor of a larger car or a new marketing technique. I also hate the fact that people don't take enough time for themselves, especially after they break up with someone else.

How do you handle conflicts? Do you feel that this approach is effective?: Downplay it, put the burden on myself and then stew about it for long periods of time. Horrendously ineffective.

If you could change one thing about the way you look, what would it be?: Just one thing? I'd like to have a body I'm not ashamed of. But, since this is something that I *can* change about me, maybe that doesn't count. I'd also like to have less moles.

If you could change one thing about your personality, what would it be?: Be more willing to accept people for who they are instead of wishing they would be different and thus, make me happier

If you had Aladdin's lamp and three wishes, what would they be?:
1) That everyone had fulfilling work to do that made a positive contribution to society
2) Equality everwhere
3) Everyone to experience true love and life-long friendship

Preferences
Read books: Yes, but not as much as I should
Sleep 8 hours: Never straight through, but usually between seven and eight
Watch television daily: Yes, too much
Shop: I don't really like shopping all that much, except for grocery shopping, which no one else seems to like.
Go out/party: Hardly ever
Spend time with friends: More than anything
Spend time alone: Alone time is very important to me
Talk on the phone: I enjoy talking on the phone with lots of people, but I have to be in the right mood. I wish more people called me.
Clean: I stay relatively neat, but can be very messy at times too.
Write email: I think I compose more email than 90% of the population.
Read newspapers: I generally avoid newspapers and get most of my information from internet sites or teevee
Play with animals: as much as I can, I am anxious for the day when we get a dog
State opinions: quite a bit
Ask opinions: not as much as I should
Confide in your parents: More than I used to
Volunteer: Will be increasing soon
Procrastinate: often
Get drunk: Never have, never will
Diet: No, but I pay more attention to what I eat
Vote: Again, not enough
Cry: I used to cry a lot when I was little and was told to save my tears. Now, they won't flow at all
Laugh: all the time
Instigate: Not usually
Cinema: I have a list of about 20 movies I'd like to rent. Movies at the theater are so expensive, I usually miss them. Although, most movies don't appeal to me. The good ones hardly ever play around here.
Theater: Not often
Concerts: I'm a bit of a wet blanket when it comes to concerts. I don't like being crowded and in smokey environments, so that usually limits me.
Clubs: Dancing (re: gyrating and hoping no one notices) once in a while with friends. I can't dance, remember?
Parties: Rarely, I never went to a party in college except for one time at a girl's apartment that used to be where my brother lived the year before, which was rather surreal. They were watching a Garth Brooks concert and playing some drinking game. I sat there quietly and felt generally uncomfortable.
Surf the web: At work, like an addict

Favorites
Cocktail: Kiddie, please
Breakfast: Cereal or a bagel with cream cheese. Or both.
Fast food item: French fries
Cuisine: Mostly pasta or pizza
Scent: Rain or just before it's going to rain or bakeries
Car: I really like my old Buick, but it's starting to wear down. It's just really comfortable and smooth to ride in.
Brand of Clothing: Whatever is on sale at Kohl's or Shopko.
Item of clothing: Shorts. Comfy shorts
Accessory: wedding ring or glasses
Sneakers: I like my new sneakers. I could actually buy them off the shelf and not special order them from the circus supply store.
Magazine: The Sun (closely followed by Utne Reader or Adbusters)
Book: Probably The Stand or Eyes of the Dragon by Stephan King
Movie: Kevin Smith makes funny pictures
Television show: The Simpsons, hands down
Hour of the day: Noon to one, I'm usually eating and doing something I like (reading or relaxing)
Song to do karaoke to: Pass
Actress: Ileana Douglas (ooh baby) or Cameron Diaz
Cartoon character: Milhouse or Brandon Smalls
Sports team: Packers or Jaguars
First date: My first with Marie, when we went out for Italian food and The Truman Show
Outfit to sleep in: My birthday suit
Video game: Paperboy or Diablo